10.20.2010

Laughing through infertility.

Infertility is just the pits! This just hasn't been best month for me. Adding some new things to this cycle has only cost me more money and more tears. These drugs make me feel like I am losing my mind at times!

BUT...I have found a blog that really brings some laughter to infertility. (If that's even possible!) I wanted to share this to make sure that all my infertility bloggers/friends have seen it! Yesterday's post was about all the books that are out there about increasing your chances to get pregnant. I have read so many books and so many online articles, I think I could write my own book!! But her sarcasm in the suggestions of titles for the books, just literally made me laugh. And to be honest, I felt somewhat encouraged that I am not in fact losing my mind and that anyone else going through infertility has/have had some of these same thoughts and feelings!

You can go read the article and more at www.999reasonstolaugh.com... but here are her suggestions for more realistic titled fertility books:
  • What to Expect after you’ve peed on a stick and you’re not sure if you really see a second line or it’s your imagination.
  • What to Expect when you’ve been waiting all day for the fertility doctor to call you back.
  • What to Expect after you’ve stared at the toilet paper and thought that you might have seen a red dot.
  • What to Expect when you’re partner’s sperm count is in the negatives.
  • What to Expect after you’ve had baby-making sex, not because you wanted to, but because it was ovulation time.
  • What to Expect when cousin Martha gets pregnant on her first try.
  • What to Expect when you have way too much PCOS-related facial hair.
  • What to Expect after you’ve been inseminated by a 20 year old fertility intern named Teresa.
  • What to Expect when your Facebook friends happily post their ultrasound photos and you want to shoot yourself.
  • What to Expect after you’ve just eaten a container of ice cream following a BFN.
  • What to Expect when you’re at a baby shower sobbing in the guest of honor’s bathroom.
  • What to Expect when you have to give yourself a fertility injection during cousin Emma’s wedding.
  • What to Expect when you’re mother gives you another newspaper articles about infertility.
  • What to Expect when you’re completely jealous of all pregnant women but won’t ever admit it.
  • What to Expect when you feel hopeless and this blog reminds you to never give up HOPE.

You may be thinking...What is funny about infertility anyways? Naomi, the blogger that blogs through her fertility struggles says, Infertility itself is not very funny but when life hands you lemons, make some fertile lemonade! All I’m say is that feeling depressed about any situation in your life is not going to help. Staying positive and laughing makes life much more enjoyable.

So after reading through some of her post, I am going to try to take her advice and do some laughing!

27 comments:

Kelly said...

I found several other bloggers and websites where people were laughing about infertility and it DID make me feel better at the time. Sometimes it's so awful you just have to laugh. Like about how awful it is to drive to the clinic with a cup of "important stuff" between your legs to keep it warm or how to dress smartly for all those ultrasounds! :-0

Lauren said...

Julee, I think there’s something we can all take away from this post whether we’re struggling with infertility or whatever the case maybe. In the midst of life’s circumstances, we all need to remember to not forget to laugh!!!

Anonymous said...

Hi! I found your blog through kellyskorner and have been reading ever since. I just wanted to say I'm praying that you get your sweet baby soon. I don't even know you but I want this for you so badly! After reading your blog for a while and seeing how much you love your friend's children, oh my goodness, your children will be so blessed to have a mother like you. I'm believing and trusting that you will be blessed soon with a baby, and until then I pray the Lord gives you strength, peace, and even joy through this difficult time. Just know you are an inspiration. The day you are able to make the big announcement, Lord willing, I think I will cry and praise the Lord as if you were one of my good friends! Praying for you, girl.
Liz
P.S. I hope I don't come across as stalkerish in any way! Haha. I guess when you read someone's blog for a long time you come to care about them in a sense, so I promise I'm not a creep:)!
Liz

Mallory said...

You will make a great mom someday SOON! I'm praying for you!

Ashley E. said...

I have a feeling it will be soon!!! Praying for you!

The Townsend's said...

I was just thinking about you yesterday wondering how everything was going. Thanks for sharing the link! Trying to remain positive during all this IS hard and it's always good to find other bloggers going through it and making us laugh. :)

Karen At Home said...

Hi Julee, I can relate completely. All of those made me laugh! I am confident you will be a Mom one day and I know you will be an amazing Mom. I think Mom's who have gone through infertility have such a unique appreciation of what they have because of what they have been through. I know going through infertility has made me learn not to take anything for granted and to be the best Mom I can. Praying for you!!!

Karen

Anonymous said...

i agree completely with liz. it is like she read my mind...even the not creepy part! praying for you.
:) linda

Stephanie said...

These are great! I posted an "IF funny" a few weeks ago on my blog. Check it out if you get a minute. You definitely need to have a positive outlook while going through this, and humor never hurts either. I'm sorry to hear you've had a hard month - I hope things look up for you very soon!

http://blawndesblawg.blogspot.com/2010/10/you-know-youre-trying-to-conceive-when.html

Christi said...

I have been reading your blog for several weeks now. I think you are the sweetest thing. I wanted to share my family's story. My mother and father were married for 13 years before they had my brother and me. Yes, 13 years! They adopted my older brother, and then my mother got pregnant with twins. I am a twin! My older brother is 23 months older than us. It didn't stop there. After she had us, she had my younger brother 13 months later. Needless to say, our house was crazy! But I wouldn't change it for anything. I loved growing up with brothers all close in age. I am praying for you! God will bless you in his time! I know you will be a wonderful mother one day!

Lauren McKnight said...

I found your blog through my cousin's, Sarah Green, and I love the blog you posted about. I read it daily as I too am going through infertility. Good luck with treatments!

Kaysie said...

Hang in there, girl! I think about you often and I pray that God will bless you and your hubby with your own little one soon. Trying to find the good in the negative (even the BFN) is pretty much the only way to get through times like this - other than prayer of course :)

Amanda said...

Thinking of you and praying for you and your husband....

Miller Family said...

I found your blog through Kelly's Korner and wanted to let you know that I am praying for you! I also struggled with infertility for years. I tried for 3 years to get pregnant and finally did with my daughter. Then, I never went on birth control again. After treatments again, I just had a boy on the 1st. I did some big fertility treatments both times! I know the pain, emotional roller coaster, depression, anger, etc. Believe me! I will keep praying for you. You are so not alone!

Katie said...

Julee ~ love you, girl. Praying praying.

Melissa said...

We don't really know each other, but I read your blog after I read Kelly's, and Ashley's and Brody's and have been waiting to click over and see you're pregnant. I have worked in infertility for years and no words can make your obstacles easier, but knowing that a complete stranger is out there praying for you and keepin you in their thoughts.

Here's to wishing you and your hubby tons of babies!

Kara Oosterhous said...

My Julee, Love you much sweetheart. Hang in there. You are an inspiration to so many, through your love, kindness, friendship, honesty, hope, and faith. Praying for you guys. It was so good to see you a couple of weekends ago; think of you so often. Hugs.

ting said...

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colleen said...

I stumbled upon your blog... i think thru kellys blog... I just want to say hang in there!!! and I know how you feel, I have pcos, and have been trying for a baby for 5 years! I know that the Lord has a plan for each and everyone of us! I totaly get your frustration and know exactaly where your comming from. I am very new to the blog world, and I am so happy to have found your blog. I really like this post about laughing thru infertility... cause if we dont laugh we will just cry! and laughing is much more fun :)

Jessica said...

Great post! I had an appointment with my RE this morning and Kelly's comment above just cracked me up. I wanted to wear a dress to work today, but then I realized I couldn't b/c I wouldn't have anything on my top half during the ultrasound, unless I wanted to lay on my dress and get it all wrinkled! :)

waiting said...

I think I have lived through all of those scenarios! And Kelly's comment about driving the "important stuff" between your legs.....been there too! It cracked me up thinking....."What if a cop stops me on the way to the hospital for speeding??" Wow! That would be a story to tell. The cop would have to come along and give me the ticket once the "boys" had been turned over to the appropriate party! LOL!!! Continually praying for you!

The Williams said...

Sweet Julee, I have been praying for you and will continue to pray for you guys! You are going to be a fantastic mommy one day. You truly have the most generous and loving heart. I think it is wonderful that you are speaking out and sharing with others that struggle with infertility. I also agree that laughing about things in tough times definitely helps keep your spirits up!

Sara said...

Julee -

Those were so funny and so true! I do think you have to laugh about it, because otherwise you would just curl up and cry ;( It is so tough to go through, but I know when you hold your child for the first time you will say, like me and so many others, it was all worth it and you would do it again.

Hope you have a great weekend!

Immeasurably More Mama said...

Oh, Julee. I could write what to expect for many of the things on this list. I remember all too well. Just prayed for you!

Robin said...

hi julee! i came over to your blog from kelly's korner...

but, i also work at KARK in little rock & have met matt a few times (when he did sports & would come to lr for hog games.)

anyway, i wanted to tell you that, i too, struggle with infertility. i have had 2 miscarriages. and, i know how you're feeling! it helps to know you're not alone in this! i have done all those things you talked about & more!

i just wanted to tell you, i'm with you on this, girl! and, if you ever want to talk, please feel free to email me at rthibault@kark.com. :)

Superchikk said...

Oh Julee. Those book titles are so true! It took us a long time to be able to laugh through our fertility struggles - and the second time around wasn't any easier. But having a few laughs here and there (because, let's face it - you're not always in the laughing mood, especially with those crazy hormones) really does help. And Kelly's right - some of the things we've done seem completely ridiculous when viewed from a different perspective!

Jere and Cara said...

Julee,

I had no idea this was going on with you until I decided it had been way too long since I looked through my friends blogs. My heart breaks because I have been there... 4 years, 18,000, and way too many tears later I can see the light at the end of the tunnel that I so longed to see. I am praying for you...praying that you CAN laugh through this even though the laughter turns to tears. I know that all too well. God has something special planned, and I know thats cliche and I am sure that everyone has told you that as well... but its the truth. And I can say that, because I KNOW that :) Keep your chin up!